comparison and internet advice

by lou blake

One thing that messes people up is comparison, you watch someone online talk about big results, smooth interactions, perfect confidence. and then you look at your own messy sessions and feel like you are behind, but most of the time that comparison is not useful, because your job is not to match anyone else. The variables are different. your job is to stay consistent long enough to build your own comfort and process

Internet advice can also pull you in too many directions, someone tells you to only do apps, someone tells you to only do social circles, someone tells you approaching is wrong. and if you listen to everything, you end up doing nothing. You get little dopamine hits from each one but never take action

here’s what kept me steady:

- i stuck to a simple weekly plan - i judged progress by sessions and if I made it out. If I made it out I am training myself to be comfortable out there over time - i expected rough days and awkward moments - i focused on action i could control

Approaching people is already uncomfortable, so adding extra doubt from random voices makes it harder. keep your focus on your own reps, your own locations, and your own routine, and over time the noise hits you less because your results come from what you did. Your specific experiences which will trump the noise

Stay on your plan and don't listen to the online "gurus" as much, just develop your own process