rejection mindset

by lou blake

One of the biggest shifts when approaching people is how you start seeing rejection, because in the beginning it feels personal and uncomfortable. You second guess. over time it becomes something neutral, like practice that helps you get more comfortable speaking freely and taking action.

At first every interaction has some pressure, you want a good reaction, you want things to go well, and when they do not it can affect your mood. but once you go out enough times you start noticing that rejection happens constantly and usually has nothing to do with you, people are distracted, busy, or simply not interested, and that is normal. A person could be having a health issue, a bad day, stresses, forgot their medication. Who knows.

my mindset tips:

- i expected most interactions to go nowhere or at least accepted it if it happened - i treated each attempt like practice - i focused on action instead overly focusing on outcome - i kept my sessions like an hour if I needed to, so i could return again (although longer sessions can yield better results if you can do them)

Once I understood these points, approaching people became lighter, because the outcome the action itself became the focus, and over time you stop reacting emotionally to outcomes and start thinking in terms of repetition. Then results can come along with this

It is all just practice.